{"id":37453,"date":"2020-12-18T06:20:00","date_gmt":"2020-12-18T14:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nalandabodhi.org\/?p=37453"},"modified":"2026-04-22T10:07:44","modified_gmt":"2026-04-22T17:07:44","slug":"go-kind-whats-new","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nalandabodhi.org\/nl\/2020\/12\/18\/go-kind-whats-new\/","title":{"rendered":"Go Kind: What\u2019s New?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Being kind is something we all have been taught since our childhood. We know it\u2019s good to say the three magic words \u2014 Please, Thanks, Sorry \u2014 at the proper time.<\/p>

Those of us who are parents or educators include this teaching as one of the pillars of social skills for our children or students. So, is being kind just common sense?<\/p>

Then why did I feel so moved and inspired by Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche\u2019s #GoKind teachings and social media campaign? It took me a while to realize how deeply rooted in the Buddhist tradition kindness can be. Finally, I wondered: Maybe Rinpoche\u2019s teaching directly points out working with our ego, not just encourages being polite and well mannered.<\/p>

In general, we can agree on what kindness means, but when the time comes to be kind, we usually don\u2019t realize our ego is not buying the notion, and it starts playing tricks on us. I notice that often what I say and what my ego is really saying can be utterly different.<\/p>

When we robotically pronounce the (supposedly) magic words without deeply meaning them, they sound empty, maybe even sarcastic, to the recipients, just as they sound to us when kids feel forced to say them. So maybe it\u2019s time to learn to observe our own ego.<\/p>

Here is what I see in those moments when what I say is different from what my ego means:<\/p>

Please: \u201cYou need to do this, it is not a favor you are doing for me.\u201d
Thanks: \u201cI was forced to ask for something that you should have done without me asking.\u201d
Sorry: \u201cIt\u2019s your fault, but I have no time nor energy to argue with you.\u201d<\/p>

Not only are the magic words meaningless, they surely don\u2019t produce magic for others.<\/p>

Maybe this is the real difference between the good old \u201cBe Kind\u201d and the brand new (for me) \u201cGo Kind.\u201d \u201cGo\u201d involves an active attitude, a commitment to kindness. We can\u2019t be passive when it comes to kindness, and we cannot play with one foot in and one foot out. To GoKind, we need to go all-in.<\/p>

Then why don\u2019t we try to flip the script?<\/p>

Let\u2019s actively transform the three magic words by thinking something like this before we say them:<\/p>

\u201cI can\u2019t do it alone. I need help from you. I need your time\u201d = Please
\u201cI know you had a list of other things to do, but you chose to do this for me\u201d = Thanks
\u201cI was stuck on my side, I acknowledge I wasn\u2019t even listening to you\u201d = Sorry<\/p>

This helps me to GoKind \u2014 when I\u2019m mindful enough to realize I\u2019m in one of those moments. When I\u2019m not, it still helps afterwards to reflect on my motivation.<\/p>

GoKind is such a profound teaching. It\u2019s simple, it\u2019s direct, and it\u2019s actionable. We can bring it along on our daily journey, much like a colorful backpack, spreading the magic of kindness wherever we go.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Paolo Mazza has been a student of Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche since 2018, living in northern Italy. Paolo is a father of three, working in Innovation and Technology. Paolo loves hiking in the mountains and woods of the Alps.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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