{"id":40909,"date":"2021-06-25T01:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-06-25T08:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nalandabodhi.org\/?p=40909"},"modified":"2021-06-25T01:00:00","modified_gmt":"2021-06-25T08:00:00","slug":"merging-into-the-lane-of-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nalandabodhi.org\/nl\/2021\/06\/25\/merging-into-the-lane-of-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Merging Into the Lane of Change"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The merger happened suddenly and without warning for those of us not on the executive team. The company I worked for was merging with a company three times our size. Their marketing team was 10 times the size of ours and thoughts of \u201cWhy would they want me to stay when they already have all those people?\u201d chimed in my mind and those of my coworkers.\u00a0<\/p>

As I talked through the initial shock, I realized that no matter what happened, I would be okay. Even if I ended up being laid off, I understood I couldn\u2019t change what would happen, but I could change how I\u2019d react to it. Rather than worry, I could use the opportunity to be aware and learn what it is like to be part of a merger; to work in a much larger company and marketing team; to encourage my emotional self to relax into the wonderful moment of transition and change; to be present in this new experience; and to see an opening for growth, rather than worry about how things would change.\u00a0<\/p>

I also realized that if I saw the negative side of the merger, then my attitude and work would suffer, making me more susceptible to what I might perceive as a negative outcome.\u00a0<\/p>

It hasn\u2019t always been easy but trying to remember that has aided tremendously with my emotional health. I believe that my previous post<\/a> in which I wrote about embracing impermanence, visualizing the impermanent nature of everything, has helped a lot as well.\u00a0<\/p>

Moments of change remind me of a Jataka tale we used to tell our children. The story is about a father and son who lived in a village a long time ago. The son had fallen off his horse and broken his leg. \u201cOh, what misfortune that your son broke his leg and cannot help with the harvest this year!\u201d the villagers said.\u00a0 \u201cMisfortune or not, only time will tell,\u201d the father replied as he carried his son home. Then a war broke out between the village and another, and all able men were needed for the fight. \u201cWhat misfortune that your son broke his leg and can\u2019t fight for our village!\u201d the villagers exclaimed. \u201cMisfortune or not, only time will tell,\u201d the father replied. The fight was difficult, and many lives were lost on both sides. \u201cWhat fortune that your son broke his leg and couldn\u2019t fight!\u201d the villagers said. \u201cMisfortune or not, only time will tell,\u201d is all the father said.\u00a0<\/p>

As the story shows, it is our concepts that make change a misfortune or not, and change is constantly happening. Perhaps instead of resisting change, we can try to merge with it through acceptance and enjoy the ride, wherever it may lead.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Exercise<\/h2>

This is a journal exercise for times of significant change in your life.\u00a0<\/p>

  1. On a blank page, draw a vertical line down the middle. On the left write \u201cMisfortune\u201d and on the other \u201cFortune.\u201d<\/li>
  2. Start with the Misfortune side; our mind tends to go there first, anyway. Write down all of the things you think would be an unfortunate outcome from the change that is happening. Be open with yourself. Allowing yourself to fully feel the \u2018bad\u2019 side will help to process that feeling.<\/li>
  3. Next, write down all the perceived fortunate outcomes on the right side of the page. Be creative but not outlandish.<\/li>
  4. Now consider the perceived misfortune options: What could be the positive side of those?\u00a0<\/li><\/ol>

    Then reflect upon or meditate on the fact that we don\u2019t know the future. Events that we perceive to be a misfortune could actually turn out to be fortunate. Only time will tell.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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    \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tRachel Pradhan\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t
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    Rachel Pradhan has been a student of Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche since 1997, working on becoming a more open-hearted and open-minded being. Her career is in marketing, while her at-home life revolves around meditation and family, gardening, hiking, reading, and cooking. She lives in Southern California with her husband and their two sons. <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    After the initial shock of a sudden company merger, and an accompanying resistance to that change, the author recalls a wisdom tale that illustrates the fluid concepts of \u201cfortune\u201d and \u201cmisfortune,\u201d and recommends a journal exercise. <\/p>","protected":false},"author":63,"featured_media":40932,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nMerging Into the Lane of Change - Nalandabodhi International<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Practicing self care to avoid burnout isn't always easy. 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