{"id":68973,"date":"2025-07-25T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-07-25T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nalandabodhi.org\/?p=68973"},"modified":"2026-03-26T11:23:45","modified_gmt":"2026-03-26T18:23:45","slug":"when-disconnection-is-the-medicine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nalandabodhi.org\/nl\/2025\/07\/25\/when-disconnection-is-the-medicine\/","title":{"rendered":"When Disconnection Is the Medicine"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"68973\" class=\"elementor elementor-68973\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-section-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-10ea4f89 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"10ea4f89\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2b2f4cc2\" data-id=\"2b2f4cc2\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1911e89 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1911e89\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">When Disconnection Is the Medicine<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-73e999b elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"73e999b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fbac9a1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fbac9a1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p><span lang=\"EN\">I get the sense that disconnection has a bad rap in spiritual spaces. It&#8217;s often framed as a wound to be healed, a failure to be corrected, or evidence that someone has &#8220;fallen off the path.&#8221; But what if that\u2019s just another polite fiction we tell ourselves to avoid the discomfort of genuine discernment? What if that\u2019s just another way we keep ourselves trapped?<\/span><\/p><p><span lang=\"EN\">Disconnection isn\u2019t always a problem. Sometimes, it\u2019s the medicine.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-610313a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"610313a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Defining Disconnection<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dc611f9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dc611f9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p><span lang=\"EN\">Let\u2019s be clear about what is meant by disconnection. It is a sense of isolation and detachment or separating and distinguishing one thing from another. Disconnection is a kind of connection, one where there is more space, distance, or boundaries. We talk about disconnection in casual conversation. We might say that we are disconnected from people, the internet, media, or a religion. We can even feel disconnected from ourselves.<\/span><\/p><p><span lang=\"EN\">Yes, disconnection can feel like grief, loneliness, or numbness. But it can also be fierce clarity, healthy boundaries, or the liberation of finally saying, \u201cNo more.\u201d In a world full of toxic positivity, superficial \u201cdharma\u201d teachings, and spiritual codependence, disconnection can be a radical act of sanity.<\/span><\/p><p><span lang=\"EN\">You can\u2019t have interdependence or interconnection without disconnection. If everything were one giant blur of connection, there would be no boundaries, no discernment, no space\u2014and therefore, no meaningful relationships. Interdependence isn\u2019t sameness. It\u2019s the dance between connection and distinction. Without some measure of disconnection and differentiation, interdependence becomes fusion or enmeshment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-331cdb8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"331cdb8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Letting Go to Heal<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c7b2d5a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c7b2d5a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p><span lang=\"EN\">Disconnection isn&#8217;t inherently broken. What\u2019s broken is our relationship with it. And healing isn\u2019t about stitching everything back together\u2014especially not the parts of ourselves or our communities that need to be released. Healing is about learning to see clearly what nourishes and what poisons, what\u2019s worth keeping close and what needs to burn.<\/span><\/p><p><span lang=\"EN\">Not every rift needs to be repaired. If you\u2019ve walked away from a harmful belief system, an abusive relationship, a <a href=\"https:\/\/en.m.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Spiritual_bypass\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">spiritually bypassing community<\/a>, or your own self-abandoning habits\u2014that\u2019s not a failure to be fixed. That\u2019s a victory. That\u2019s a blessing. That might even be your inner <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=sV8pwAmNI_c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">rebel Buddha<\/a> knocking at the door.<\/span><\/p><p><span lang=\"EN\">The dharma has never been about pleasing people. It\u2019s about waking up. And waking up can mean walking away.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b7f1889 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b7f1889\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">On the Path<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e489c62 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e489c62\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p><span lang=\"EN\">On the Buddhist path, we\u2019re constantly practicing connection and disconnection. We connect with wisdom and compassion. We disconnect from ignorance, ego-clinging, and performative spiritual nonsense. In the vajrayana, we connect with the luminous awareness that is the nature of our own mind, and we cut through the adventitious stains that obscure it. If that\u2019s not disconnection, what is?<\/span><\/p><p>In the most positive sense, we may disconnect from the habit of treating our spiritual path as a race to be won, an identity we assume, or a mask we hide behind. We may disconnect from false friends and their shallow kindness. We may disconnect from an addiction, an abuser, or a damaging relationship. We may also disconnect from a corrupt familial, political, or religious system.<\/p><p>Disconnecting doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t care about or are abandoning someone. This is a mistaken belief that can perpetuate a cycle of suffering and abuse. We may believe if we disconnect, set boundaries, or even cut all contact that we have somehow failed or are not being kind. This misunderstanding is something toxic people and systems intentionally exploit in order to maintain control. Guilt and shame are their weapons. If we internalize this, we become trapped by a mistaken idea of kindness. At times, even the Buddha set boundaries or walked away. You can too.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3dc52ef elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3dc52ef\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Discernment<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ec7b674 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ec7b674\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p><span lang=\"EN\">It is empowering and liberating to realize that loving something or someone doesn\u2019t mean we have to continue to be drained, manipulated, or hurt. Many of us love people, ideas, things, and communities even when we know that their presence in our lives is damaging. Maintaining a harmful connection out of guilt or a misplaced spiritual obligation only causes more pain. It is not liberative. It is not loving. It is not kind.<\/span><\/p><p>When we see with genuine discernment that the presence of something or someone in our lives is not healthy, no matter how much time or energy we may have invested in it, that is the time to kindly disconnect. We can set simple, clear boundaries or even walk away completely, using our wisdom to know what is most skillful. Disconnecting doesn\u2019t need to be indifferent, hateful, or resentful. It can be clear, calm, and compassionate. It can be matter-of-fact and drama-free. It requires no justification or explanation. \u201cNo\u201d is a complete sentence.<\/p><p>Disconnecting can be the wisest and most compassionate thing we do. Disconnection can be the medicine we need to heal. Healing often doesn\u2019t maintain the status quo. Sometimes, healing looks like letting the whole thing fall apart. And in that space, there is freedom.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1cde706 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1cde706\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Contemplative Exercise<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1b12538 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1b12538\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Reflect on Your Connections\n<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f617d9b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f617d9b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<ul>\n \t<li>Take a moment to list the people, ideas, habits, and communities you are currently connected with.<\/li>\n \t<li>Which ones nurture and empower? Which ones harm or ensnare?<\/li>\n \t<li>Which are based on fear, guilt, or obligation rather than love or truth?&lt;\/li\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c10266b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"c10266b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Reflect on Your Disconnections<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-56d6ac1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"56d6ac1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<ul><li>Consider the beliefs, habits, things, people, or groups you have distanced yourself from.<\/li><li>Which of these disconnections are healing, empowering, or protective?<\/li><li>Are there places where you\u2019ve cut off too much\u2014maybe even within yourself?<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9fbd614 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"9fbd614\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Practice Fierce Discernment <\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-40ffcb6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"40ffcb6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<ul><li>Choose one connection that needs to be released or radically redefined.<\/li><li>Ask: What does letting go with sanity look like?<\/li><li>Choose one disconnection that\u2019s become a wound or a wall.<\/li><li>Ask: What would reconnection look like if it came from wisdom and love, not guilt or fear?<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9594ba5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"9594ba5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Take One Bold Step<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1af2de7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1af2de7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<ul><li>Don\u2019t make this theoretical. Write down one action\u2014just one\u2014to sever or to reconnect, with full awareness.<\/li><li>Take the leap. Put it into action. What happens?<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section data-particle_enable=\"false\" data-particle-mobile-disabled=\"false\" class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d2ac809 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d2ac809\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c9c5a19\" data-id=\"c9c5a19\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e927e2e elementor-author-box--image-valign-top elementor-widget elementor-widget-author-box\" data-id=\"e927e2e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"author-box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-author-box\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div  class=\"elementor-author-box__avatar\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/nalandabodhi.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Ben-Mikolaj_headshot_2020b-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"Ben Mikolaj\" loading=\"lazy\">\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-author-box__text\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-author-box__name\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tBen Mikolaj\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-author-box__bio\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Ben is a dharma practitioner living in Colorado who enjoys being in nature.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sangha member Ben Mikolaj challenges us to look closely at our path: \u201cThe dharma has never been about pleasing people. 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